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Saturday, July 04, 2009
Soul mates
So Mark Sanford can die happy because he found his "soul-mate" but I would bet that when he got married he thought SHE was his soul mate. So it is 10, 20 years later and the honeymoon is long gone and the daily grind of Life is not terribly exciting, and things your mate does that you used to find cute are now major pet peeves, then you get to know someone with whom you "click". Human nature being what it is of course kicks in. In my views, however, once children are in the picture, you've got to keep those feelings to yourself, it's not fair to your kids to act upon it.
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I feel guilty that maybe he was reading my blog of late. Remember when I offered the theory for our high divorce rate? failure to find our true soulmates (hehe) but they were talking about this on the radio and I tend to agree, when someone says "soulmate" what part of that really means is, shall we say the Lewinsky offerings.
Yes, Z, it probably is all your fault! Your call for Life to imitate Art more!
You're not doing yourself any favors nor are you doing your children any favors by staying in the relationship merely for their sake. Kids are smarter than sometimes they are given credit for. They can sniff out marital problems when they exist.
Sanford should have done the right thing and terminated the relationship with his wife before acting on his whims. Anyone professing to preach the virtues of the sanctity of marriage (not to infer that Sanford was a proponent of this particular political pillar) or seeking to earn the public trust ought to have the intellectual honesty to do that.
Hmmmmmm, two interesting views. I've long held to the soapster's position in all this, if you're THAT unhappy that you're cheating then why not get a divorce and do it the right way so as you're not really cheating? Maybe they like the forbidden fruit though. I was talking about Sanford with people and we all kind of agreed, he doesn't look like the Lady's Man type, not at all, to be this kind of chick magnet when he just looks like some older usher at church with a limp who seats people and passes out the bulletin at the end. Then again we had Gary Condit. Oh well go figure!
SO WHAT ARE WE ALL DOING WRONG?!?
Some people I guess hold divorce as some no no. While I personally hate to see people who end up divorced after such a short stint, the reality is that people change (especially so for those individuals who get married young) as they age. Sometimes the change is not for the better.
And, if marriage is to be some great virtue, then it is not to its benefit that an individual ought to hold their marriage equally sacred when on the one hand you have a loving and caring spouse and on the other you've got a lying, cheating, S.O.B.
The latter is certainly not deserving of your affection and as well he/she ought to be recognized as such.
Some people I guess hold divorce as some no no.
You mean like the POPE?
I suppose he's one of them. Of course the Catholic church has their own shortcomings so I'd prefer they focus on those. It stands to chance they'd take such a staunch position given their affinity towards sacrifice and the like.
I take a contrarian view because I don't find anything virtuous in sacrificing yourself, vis a' vis remaining in a failed marriage merely out of some religious duty, to a spouse who has not a shred of respect for you.
Call me an old stick-in-the-mud but I'm against divorce in most cases, FIND OUT before you marry if he/she is your soulmate. People rationalize adultery all the time and it makes me sick and it usually hinges on some kind of emotional need but soapie's point is taken under consideration.
You can't have "Thought Police" (although the way things are going anymore, that could be in the works!) but I do agree with you, Z-man, commitments are not always easy to keep but they should be kept.
Tell that to Sarah Palin!
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